Don’t Let Age Stop You!

Have you heard these quotes about AGE?  ali





When these quotes have been shared, a response that I often hear is: “You need to face the fact that there are some things that are going to change because you age.  You just wait and see.”  While that is true, as I age I may move slower, my visual and auditory acuity may change, my memory may not be as sharp, boundariesBUT what I never want to allow is my age to become a boundary that prohibits me from achieving my goals and dreams.  

Recently, I was reminded that age has no boundaries when I saw a picture of a fellow Hamptonian, William (Bill) Goldborough. Bill graduated in the 1949 class at Hampton University (Institute). This class fondly called themselves the “49ers.”  Bill and I met at a meeting of the National Hampton Alumni Association and later served together on its Board. Bill was the Technology Committee Chair in 1998. My initial impression of him was a man of innovation and a trail blazer. He was fearless, perhaps in part, because he bravely fought as a World War II Veteran.  I often admired that Bill was unafraid to speak what was needed to be said and likewise was unafraid of change. No wonder Bill was recognized by the President of our National Hampton Alumni Association as a “trailblazer.” I wasn’t surprised when I saw this recent picture. Bill, at 91, made history becoming the oldest initiate of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity.  See the details in this article.

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When I reached out to say congratulations, Bill responded:

“I live my life like “A CANDLE IN THE WIND” and look back only to direct my path FORWARD. God is my constant CO-PILOT and continues to guide me.”

Bill’s message reminded me to look back as a reference point to continue moving forward and not forget that I need my co-pilot, God, to guide me.

My message to you. When you think you’re too “old” to accomplish a dream that was placed on your heart, remember the dream is a “calling” AND if you stay in tune with your co-pilot,  God, your dream will become a reality.

Achieving your dream is not about AGE; rather, it is about YOU!



At Last! A Happy Ending

On Saturday, my husband and I will celebrate twenty-two years of marriage. September 3, 1994 represented a “happy ending” for My happy ending became a reality because I chose to change my mindset and actions. So what changed?

I recognized that I had been waiting for Prince Charming to come and sweep me off my feet. After all, that is what happened in the fairy tales. And because of that expectation, I was leaving my happy ending to someone else. Most of my time had been spent trying to convince men I met that “I was the one for them”, only to realize after a period of time “they were not for me.”

First mindset change, achieving my dream was up to me. I get to choose.

But who was best for me? I didn’t really know. It became clear to me that defining “my best lifetime partner” was my first priority. After all how would I know who to look for or better yet, if he appeared, I might not even recognize him. This led me to create my Best Lifetime Partner Profile (BLPP), which equipped me with the criteria I needed to identify him. Now to find him meant getting outside of my home and office; going to events and activities that a man fitting my profile might be attending.

Using my profile, I started telling my friends, co-workers, college classmates, family members about “my best lifetime partner” so that they could be on the lookout for me. This led me to my next discovery, don’t listen to others who tell you it can’t happen. Some people began to tell me “Your criteria is too high.”  “You won’t ever meet a man that fits your profile. He doesn’t exist.” “Don’t you know there is a shortage of good men.”

I chose to not let others place limitations on my dream.  I chose to believe in my dream.

Recognizing that there would be competition, before stepping out, I needed to “stand out.” Attracting him would require me to stay focused on my appearance, self-esteem, and attitude. At each event or activity that I attended, I made sure I was “at my b.e.s.t.”  One evening while attending a professional conference, I stepped off the elevator and standing before me were two men warmly greeting attendees as they entered the reception. One in particular, smiled and asked if it was my first time at the conference. Using my BLPP, I began observing and listening to him as we talked.  He met my initial criteria. After dinner, the music began playing and there he was asking me to dance, guiding me across the dance floor. I was having fun! I hated to see the evening come to an end (much like a princess who had found her prince). It meant we would be going our separate ways. I returned to Philadelphia, PA and he returned to Columbus, OH.

Shortly after returning home, a beautiful card from Ohio arrived in the mail. Now I was faced with an important decision, “Was I willing to do what was necessary to be with my best lifetime partner?”  The answer was “YES.”  Whenever I could, I traveled to Columbus. I even made arrangements for side trips when on business trips within the Mid-West Region. He also changed his schedule and traveled to Philadelphia and attended events that were important to me.  I didn’t let distance get in the way.  On Christmas Eve, as I opened my presents, I found a beautiful diamond and my “best lifetime partner” was asking me to marry him.

Making your dream a reality requires being committed to doing what is necessary. 

Saturday, I look forward to celebrating our anniversary which always includes dancing to At Last!

If you have a dream, remember to…

  • Choose to go after your dream
  • Get clarity
  • Don’t let others limit you
  • Believe in your dream
  • Commit to doing what is necessary