I was wrapping up a training session with leaders of an organization that focused on the importance of their behaviors in shaping the organization’s culture. One of my favorite “go to” resources about results is Gary Ryan Blair. I just love his quote “Behavior Never Lies.”
During the session, to emphasize the point, I shared a personal story that I love to use about my husband and me. You see my husband is my “B.E.S.T. Buddy,” which means he is my accountability partner. He is great at observing my behavior and quickly identifying when it doesn’t align with my words. So in the session, I shared the story about my eating chocolate ice cream at 9:30 pm, having told my husband earlier that I was focused on losing weight. Well you know what happened. He called me on it. While I didn’t want to hear it, I had to face the fact my behavior was telling the truth. I really wasn’t focused on losing weight. Enjoying my favorite dessert, was more important. Now, if I really wanted to lose weight, it was on me to adjust my behavior to accomplish my goal. That I did and I am proud to say that I lost 20 lbs!!! I then challenged the leaders to examine their behaviors with regard to the core values and expectations we had identified. Our next session was going to focus on their discoveries. How committed were they to the core values?
Just as we were scheduling the next training session, I saw there was a phone message from my husband.
MESSAGE: Are you there yet? You were supposed to call me.
I then shared the message with the group.
ME: I have a message from my B.E.S.T. Buddy.
Of course they knew from my previous story who it was from. This training that I was conducting was 2 hours from Columbus. I had left early in the morning. Prior to departing, I had told my husband that I would text him so that he would know that I had arrived safely.
EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR: Tell him that I started talking to you as soon as you arrived.
While that was true, if it was important to me to make sure my husband knew I had arrived safely, I would have text him before I got out of the car. This made me pause and recognize that my behavior once again had told the truth.
What became more important upon my arrival was getting started with the training. Now, I had to face the reality. Did I want notifying my husband to be the priority? As I reflected, it became apparent to me that I did. I realized that I didn’t want my husband to take for granted when I travel alone that I have arrived safely, because there might come a time when something happens and his concern could play a vital role in my well-being. So I made a note to self- “make sure that when I arrive anywhere, first action- text husband.”
If you haven’t obtained your desired results, I repeat my message: “the truth is in your behavior.” Behavior Never Lies. My B.E.S.T. recommendation– make sure you identify a B.E.S.T. Buddy. Having an accountability partner is essential because so often we don’t recognize when our behaviors are out of alignment. Behavior drives Results!